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Human Needs, Part 2: How “Need Viruses” Form
Explore “need viruses” as a Seromi metaphor for learned patterns linking natural needs, interpretations and coping strategies, with everyday examples.
Part Three: Reconstructing Distorted Needs Using NLP Plus Techniques
Author: Soheila Dadkhah
Natural human needs form a dynamic system for preserving life, regulating the psyche, establishing connection, and guiding growth. Under the influence of traumatic experiences, deprivation, shame, controlling relationships, social comparison, and cultural messages, these needs may become linked to compensatory strategies. In the Soroumi system, the intermediary pattern between a natural need and a compensatory strategy is called a need virus.
The purpose of this article is to present a practical protocol for identifying and reconstructing distorted needs. This protocol is based on a combination of NLP techniques, NLP Plus principles, emotion regulation, self-determination theory, and trauma-informed considerations.
The proposed process consists of seven stages: identifying the behavior, discovering the underlying feeling and primary need, separating the need from the strategy, regulating the physiological and emotional state, uncovering the hidden rule, creating alternative strategies, and stabilizing the new response in the future.
In this approach, the person’s need is acknowledged, while the way of responding to it is redesigned. The primary objective is to increase flexibility, autonomy, competence, and healthy connection. The techniques presented in this article are offered as structured tools for self-awareness, coaching, and facilitating change. The use of these techniques in the treatment of psychological disorders, severe traumatic experiences, or crisis situations requires assessment and intervention by a qualified professional.
Keywords: human needs, need virus, NLP Plus, belief reconstruction, emotion regulation, Meta Model, reframing, timeline, future pacing.
In the first part of this series, four domains of natural human needs were examined: physiological and survival needs, psychological and emotional needs, relational and social needs, and meaning-related and developmental needs.
In the second part, the process through which needs become distorted was explained. A natural need may be met with an inadequate, contradictory, or harmful response. The person forms a mental interpretation of this experience and creates a compensatory strategy for self-protection. Repetition of this strategy produces a stable pattern that is called a need virus in the Soroumi system.
For example, a child who receives attention only when successful may establish a connection between affection and performance. In adulthood, this person may continue to require increasing levels of achievement in order to experience worth.
The natural need is to be seen and respected. The compensatory strategy is perfectionism. The hidden rule links human worth to performance.
An effective solution begins with recognizing the need. The need remains a natural part of the human structure. The pathway of change develops through recognizing it, respecting the protective function of the strategy, and creating broader choices.
The fundamental principle of this article is:
The human need is valid, and the way of responding to it can be redesigned.
NLP provides coaches or facilitators with a set of communicative, questioning, perceptual, and mental imagery patterns. These patterns can be used to clarify subjective experience, uncover meaning, change perspective, and practice new behaviors.
The scientific position of NLP requires precision and transparency. A systematic review of studies on health outcomes has shown that the available empirical evidence for establishing the independent clinical effectiveness of NLP is limited. For this reason, the techniques in this article are not considered substitutes for evidence-based treatments or medical care. They are tools for coaching, self-awareness, organizing experience, and facilitating dialogue.
Within the Soroumi system, NLP Plus places technique within a broader framework. This framework is based on presence, consent, nervous-system regulation, meaning, individual autonomy, secure relationships, and attention to cultural context.
In this approach, the pace of change is adjusted according to the individual’s readiness. The quality of contact with experience takes priority over the intensity of intervention. At every stage, the individual has the right to choose, pause, reconsider, and stop.
The principles of trauma-informed care also emphasize safety, trust, transparency, collaboration, empowerment, and choice. These principles are consistent with the primary objective of the present protocol: restoring autonomy to a person whose need has, for a period of time, been placed under the control of fear or a compulsive strategy.
The need-reconstruction protocol consists of seven stages.
In the first stage, the recurring behavior and the situation in which it becomes active are identified.
In the second stage, the underlying feeling and primary need beneath the behavior are discovered.
In the third stage, the natural need is separated from the compensatory strategy.
In the fourth stage, the person’s physiological and emotional state is regulated so that the capacity for observation and choice increases.
In the fifth stage, the hidden rule or belief guiding the behavior is identified and reconstructed.
In the sixth stage, several healthier strategies for responding to the need are created.
In the seventh stage, the new response is practiced and stabilized in a future situation.
These stages form a continuous structure, but their implementation is not always linear. After discovering a belief, the person may again need emotional regulation. At times, the body accepts or resists a new strategy before the mind does.
The first step is to transform a general complaint into a clear and observable situation.
Statements such as “I am dependent,” “I lack confidence,” or “I am always anxious” provide limited information about the structure of the experience. The coach or therapist needs to know precisely in what situation, in response to what trigger, and with what consequence the behavior becomes active.
To clarify the structure of the experience, the following questions may be asked:
• Exactly when does this state become active?
• What happens immediately before it?
• What do you do in that moment?
• How does your body react?
• How do you feel after performing this behavior?
• How long does this sense of relief or satisfaction last?
Practical Example
The client says that they behave in a controlling manner within a relationship.
Through more precise questions, it becomes clear that the trigger is the romantic partner not responding for several hours. The physiological reaction begins with pressure in the chest and contraction in the abdomen. A mental image of the partner becoming distant then appears. The person’s inner statement refers to the possibility of being abandoned.
The individual then sends multiple messages, interrogates the other person, or uses punitive silence. Receiving a response reduces the anxiety for a while, but in the long term, relational tension increases and mutual trust decreases.
At this stage, the general label of “controlling” has been transformed into an examinable sequence.
Behavior is the external surface of the process. Beneath the behavior, there is usually a feeling, and beneath the feeling, one or more needs.
The pathway of exploration begins with the behavior, then moves toward the feeling, the message of the feeling, and the natural need.
In the previous example, controlling behavior is accompanied by anxiety and fear. Fear signals the possibility of losing the relationship. The primary need may be security, trust, belonging, or receiving clarity.
To discover the feeling, the following questions may be asked:
• What feeling becomes active in you when this happens?
• If this feeling could speak, what message would it have?
• In which part of your body is this feeling present?
• How intense is it on a scale from one to ten?
• What is this feeling trying to protect?
To discover the need, the following questions may be asked:
• What do you truly need in that moment?
• If controlling were set aside for a few moments, what need would become visible?
• What feeling is receiving a response from that person supposed to create in you?
• Which is closer to your experience: security, respect, belonging, clarity, or being seen?
• If this need were fulfilled in a healthy way, what change would occur in your body?
The Deepening Chain Technique
In this technique, the process begins with a surface-level want and reaches a deeper need through repetition of a question.
For example, the client wants the romantic partner always to respond quickly to messages.
The coach asks what a quick response provides.
The client explains that it shows they are important to the other person.
The coach asks what being assured of their importance calms within them.
The client answers that, in that case, they are no longer afraid of being left alone.
In this example, the surface-level want was receiving an immediate response, while the primary need was relational security and reassurance of belonging.
One of the most important stages of reconstruction is separating the need from the behavior created to fulfill it.
The person may have believed for years that the only way to achieve security is to control others. Under such conditions, the need and the strategy are experienced as a single reality.
At this stage, three matters are separated from one another.
The first is the person’s genuine need for security.
The second is the strategy the person has learned in order to obtain security.
The third is the possibility of creating new ways to fulfill the same need.
A reconstructive statement may be expressed as follows:
I need security. I learned controlling as a way to achieve security. I can now find other ways to create security.
This separation frees the need from shame and brings the strategy into the realm of choice.
The Positive Intention Technique
In NLP, a distinction is made between the intention of a behavior and its consequences. A behavior may have harmful consequences while simultaneously having developed for protection, belonging, or pain reduction.
To discover the positive intention, the following questions may be asked:
• What positive function is this behavior trying to perform for you?
• What is this behavior protecting you from?
• If this behavior were removed, what would you fear might happen?
• What is the deeper intention of this behavior?
For example, the coach asks the client what controlling is intended to provide.
The client responds that the behavior is meant to prevent being caught off guard.
As the questions continue, it becomes clear that the primary intention is to create security.
The coach and client can now respect the need for security while simultaneously creating new ways of fulfilling it.
This dialogue reduces internal resistance because the protective part feels that its role has been recognized and understood.
6. Stage Four: Regulating the Physiological and Emotional State
Changing a belief becomes more difficult during intense arousal. When the body experiences danger, the person’s attention becomes narrower and protective responses become faster.
Before entering cognitive reconstruction, it is necessary to establish contact with the present moment and create a relative sense of safety.
Orientation to the Present Technique
The person is invited to observe the environment calmly and name several real indicators of the current time and place.
The individual can respond to the following questions:
• Where are you now?
• What can you see around you?
• Which color or shape feels calmer to your eyes?
• Which sound reminds you that you are present in this place now?
• Which parts of your body are in contact with the chair or the ground?
The purpose of this exercise is to shift attention away from the threatening image and toward actual environmental information.
Safety Anchor Technique
The person recalls an experience in which they felt calm, supported, powerful, or fully present. This experience may be related to a place, relationship, ability, or personal moment.
The image, sound, body posture, and feeling associated with that experience are then made clearer. At the peak of the feeling, a specific cue is selected, such as touching two fingers together or placing a hand on the chest.
After several repetitions, this cue may make access to an internal resource state easier.
An anchor is not a substitute for actual safety or deep regulation of traumatic experiences. It is a brief tool for recalling a resourceful state.
Intensity Scale Technique
The person rates the intensity of the emotion from one to ten.
After regulating breathing, connecting with the environment, and activating a resource, the emotional intensity is reassessed.
The purpose is to create enough space for observation and choice. Even a reduction in emotional intensity from eight to six may produce an important change in the person’s access to resources.
Body Language Technique
The coach may ask the person:
• What does your body need right now?
• Does your body want distance, movement, support, a pause, or deeper breathing?
• If your body could choose a more suitable position, how would it sit or stand?
In NLP Plus, the body is not merely a receiver of commands from the mind. The body is considered one of the primary sources of assessment and feedback.
7. Stage Five: Discovering the Hidden Rule
Every need virus is usually based on an internal rule. This rule may appear as a belief, presupposition, generalization, or cause-and-effect relationship.
Hidden rules may make the person’s worth dependent on the satisfaction of others, achievement, power, the presence of a particular person, or control over circumstances.
For example, a person may believe that, in order to be lovable, they must always please others.
Another person may believe that making a mistake reduces their human worth.
A controlling person may associate releasing control with the occurrence of a disaster.
A person who avoids asking for help may view seeking help as a sign of weakness.
Using the Meta Model
The Meta Model helps uncover omissions, generalizations, and linguistic distortions.
If a person says, “Everyone abandons me,” one may ask exactly who has abandoned them and in which situations.
If they say, “I must always be strong,” one may ask what they predict will happen if they show vulnerability.
If they say that another person’s failure to respond makes them feel worthless, the constructed link between the other person’s behavior and their human worth may be examined.
If they conclude that not receiving a response means they are unlovable, one may search for the evidence supporting that conclusion and for other possible explanations.
If they say, “I am not enough,” one may ask: enough for what, compared with which standard, and from whose perspective?
The Meta Model is not used to defeat or interrogate the person. Questions must be presented with curiosity, respect, and at a pace appropriate to the person’s readiness.
8. The Logical Levels Technique
Sometimes a belief is located at the level of behavior, while at other times it is connected to identity. Examining logical levels helps clarify the precise location of the issue.
At the environmental level, one examines where the pattern becomes active and in the presence of whom.
At the behavioral level, the person’s specific action is examined.
At the capability level, existing skills and required skills are explored.
At the belief and value level, the meaning the person has assigned to the situation becomes visible.
At the identity level, the effect of the experience on the person’s definition of self is examined.
At the meaning level, the relationship between change and the broader direction of the person’s life becomes clear.
A person who generalizes an undesirable result to their entire identity has combined the level of behavior with the level of identity.
The reconstruction of this experience may be expressed as follows:
I did not achieve the desired result in one experience. This experience provides information about my strategy and skills; it does not define my entire identity.
9. Belief Reconstruction
After discovering the hidden rule, the new belief must have three characteristics.
First, the new belief must be credible within the person’s current experience.
Second, it must support the person’s primary need.
Third, it must be capable of being translated into specific behavior.
Statements that are extremely large and far removed from the person’s experience may be accepted intellectually, while the body and emotions remain distant from them.
A gradual and believable statement may be:
I am learning ways to create greater security for myself.
Another example is:
My worth does not depend only on the outcome of this experience.
Another example is:
I can express my need and also listen to the other person’s response.
Belief Reconstruction Pattern
First, the old belief is identified. For example, the person believes that, in order to preserve the relationship, they must always agree.
The protective function of the belief is then examined. The belief may have been formed to prevent conflict and rejection.
The current cost of the belief is then identified. This cost may include loss of boundaries, hidden anger, and reduced intimacy.
In the next stage, the primary need is discovered. In this example, the primary need is belonging accompanied by security.
A new belief is then created. The person may accept that a healthy relationship has the capacity to hold differences and respectful dialogue.
Finally, a new behavior is selected. The person may express one small preference and observe the response within the relationship.
10. Changing the Qualities of Mental Imagery
Some beliefs are reinforced through mental images. A person may see a future in which they are completely alone after expressing disagreement.
In this technique, the characteristics of the image are examined. Distance, size, brightness, movement, viewing angle, and the sound accompanying the image can affect the intensity of the experience.
The person examines whether the image is near or far, bright or dark, static or moving. They also determine whether they experience the scene from within or observe themselves from the outside.
The intensity of the image is then regulated by gradually changing its distance, size, brightness, or sound. After the intensity decreases, a more realistic image is created. In the new image, the person expresses disagreement respectfully and is capable of dealing with several possible responses.
The purpose of this technique is to broaden the range of predictions and reduce the dominance of a single threatening image.
11. Six-Step Reframing
Six-step reframing is suitable for behaviors that the person wishes to change while another part of them insists on preserving those behaviors.
Stage One: Defining the Behavior
The behavior must be defined precisely. For example, the person constantly checks the romantic partner’s mobile phone.
Stage Two: Communicating With the Responsible Part
The person directs attention to the part that activates the behavior. They then observe the bodily responses, images, and words associated with it.
Stage Three: Discovering the Positive Intention
The responsible part is asked what the behavior provides for the person.
The answer may be security, preparedness, prevention of rejection, or reduction of surprise.
Stage Four: Producing New Choices
The creative part of the mind offers at least three new ways to fulfill the same intention.
To create security in a relationship, one may use clear communication agreements, direct requests for reassurance, emotion regulation, maintenance of personal activities, and evaluation of behavior over a realistic period of time.
Stage Five: Accepting Responsibility for Implementing the New Approach
The protective part examines which of the new approaches it is willing to accept for a trial period.
Stage Six: Checking Internal Congruence
The person examines the reactions of other parts of the self. The new approach must be consistent with the person’s values, health, boundaries, and life circumstances.
12. Changing Personal History
Some hidden rules are connected to specific past experiences. Changing personal history helps the person reobserve the past experience using present-day understanding and resources.
The purpose of this technique is to change the stabilized meaning and add resources that were not available to the person at the time of the event.
In the first stage, the current trigger is identified.
In the second stage, the person follows the present feeling backward and recalls situations in which they experienced a similar feeling.
In the third stage, the experience is observed from a safe distance. The degree of closeness to the memory is determined according to the person’s regulatory capacity.
In the fourth stage, the need of the child or younger part within that situation is identified. The need may be safety, support, explanation, choice, boundaries, or being seen.
In the fifth stage, the necessary resources are added to the experience. The current adult self, an internal supporter, or a safe figure may provide these resources to the younger part.
In the sixth stage, the meaning of the experience is reconstructed.
Reconstructive statements may include:
• Their behavior did not determine my worth.
• I was a child at that time, and I was not responsible for regulating adults’ emotions.
• My need for affection was valid.
In the seventh stage, the person returns to the present by attending to the environment, breathing, bodily contact, and the current date.
The use of this technique with severe memories, dissociative experiences, panic attacks, abuse, or post-traumatic symptoms requires specialized therapeutic competence.
13. Perceptual Positions
This technique helps the person observe a relationship from three positions.
In the first position, the person expresses their own experience, need, boundary, and request.
In the second position, while maintaining awareness that this stage is hypothetical, the person examines the situation from the other party’s possible perspective.
In the third position, the person observes the relationship from the outside and sees the interaction pattern between both parties.
For example, in the first position, the individual realizes that not receiving a response activates anxiety and that they need clarity.
In the second position, they understand that sending multiple messages may create pressure in the other person and lead them to distance themselves.
In the third position, the relational cycle becomes visible. One person’s anxiety leads to pursuit. Intense pursuit creates pressure in the other person. The other person’s distancing then increases the first person’s anxiety.
The third position separates the need virus from the identities of the individuals and transforms it into a changeable relational cycle.
14. Creating Alternative Strategies
Every need virus restricts the person’s choices. Reconstruction becomes complete when the person has several healthy and practical ways to respond to one need.
Alternative Strategies for the Need for Security
A person who seeks security by controlling others can establish clear agreements, discuss their needs, understand the limits of their control, and practice emotion regulation.
A person who turns to excessive accumulation in order to achieve financial security can use budgeting, an emergency fund, strengthening professional skills, and social support.
A person who avoids every change in order to preserve security can divide change into stages, obtain sufficient information, and create a backup plan.
Alternative Strategies for the Need for Belonging
A person who pleases everyone in order to belong can practice expressing preferences, choosing safe relationships, and tolerating difference.
A person who tolerates humiliation to preserve a relationship can express boundaries, request mutual respect, and evaluate the quality of the relationship based on actual behaviors.
A person who has restricted all belonging to one individual can build a broader relational network, participate in group activities, and strengthen their internal relationship with themselves.
Alternative Strategies for the Need for Worth
A perfectionistic person can replace the standard of flawlessness with the standard of progress. Incremental goals, acceptance of mistakes, and recognition of what is learned from each experience help strengthen the sense of competence.
A person who derives worth from the praise of others can practice self-evaluation, receiving realistic feedback, and recognizing personal values.
A person who constantly compares themselves with others can compare their current state with their own previous path and create clearer internal standards.
Alternative Strategies for the Need to Be Seen
A person who constantly displays their life in order to be seen can express their need directly, create something meaningful, and build deeper conversations.
A person who receives attention through creating crises can name loneliness or the need for companionship and make a clear request for connection.
A person who has become dependent on reactions in digital spaces can expand face-to-face connection, social participation, and personal documentation of experiences.
Alternative Strategies for the Need for Meaning
A person who receives meaning exclusively from an external authority can examine personal values, study diverse sources, and include personal experience in the process of understanding.
A person who consumes numerous courses and training programs without implementation can select one learning point, apply it, and observe the results.
A person who constantly rescues others in order to experience meaning can practice responsible participation, respect for the autonomy of others, and awareness of the limits of their role.
15. Future Pacing Technique
Future pacing creates a bridge between the session and real life. The person practices the new response in a likely future situation.
First, a real situation is selected.
The old trigger is then imagined at a manageable level of intensity.
The person identifies the physiological signs of the need virus.
They then name the primary need.
An appropriate anchor or resource is activated.
The person performs the new belief and behavior.
Finally, the short-term and long-term consequences of the new response are examined.
For example, the person imagines that the romantic partner does not respond for several hours. The old response included sending repeated messages and creating mental images of rejection.
In the new response, the person recognizes the fear and names the need for security and clarity. They then regulate breathing, separate known facts from predictions, send one clear message, and continue personal activities until the agreed time.
The criterion for success is an increased capacity to choose while emotion is present.
16. Complete Session Protocol
The session begins by determining the objective, the limits of the professional role, the person’s level of readiness, and their right to stop.
A real and specific example of the behavior is then selected.
The trigger, image, inner dialogue, bodily sensation, behavior, and consequences are examined.
The primary need is identified using the deepening chain.
Contact with the environment, breathing, body posture, and internal resources then helps regulate the state.
The belief, presupposition, or linguistic compulsion is extracted.
The positive and protective function of the old strategy is acknowledged.
A gradual, believable belief connected to the need is created.
At least three new ways of fulfilling the need are designed.
The person selects one small, specific, and time-bound behavior.
The new behavior is practiced in a likely future situation.
At the end, the intensity of the feeling, the degree of autonomy, and physiological congruence are reassessed.
17. Need Virus Identification and Reconstruction Form
To carry out this process, the following questions may be answered in order:
• What is my recurring behavior?
• In what situation does this behavior become active?
• What sensation do I experience in my body?
• Which emotion becomes active in me?
• What is my natural need?
• What is my hidden rule?
• Where did I learn this rule?
• What is the old strategy protecting me from?
• What is the cost of continuing this strategy?
• What is my new and believable belief?
• What are three healthier ways to fulfill this need?
• What is my first small action?
• How will I respond in the future situation?
18. Criteria for Evaluating Change
Change is not measured only by feeling good at the end of a session. The outcome must be examined over time and in real situations.
The first criterion is increased awareness. The person recognizes their behavior, feeling, and need more quickly.
The second criterion is increased autonomy. More opportunity for choice emerges between the trigger and the reaction.
The third criterion is increased flexibility. The person has access to a wider variety of ways to respond to the need.
The fourth criterion is reduced compulsion. The intensity and frequency of compensatory behavior decrease.
The fifth criterion is improvement in relationships. Direct expression of needs, boundary-setting, and tolerance of difference increase.
The sixth criterion is physiological congruence. The body shows greater stability and tolerance while performing the new response.
The seventh criterion is sustainability. The new behavior is repeated in several real situations and over an acceptable period of time.
The eighth criterion is support for the three basic needs. The new response should strengthen autonomy, a sense of competence, and healthy connection. These three criteria are consistent with self-determination theory.
19. Safety Boundaries and Professional Competence
A technique is useful when applied in its proper place. Some experiences are suitable for coaching and self-awareness, while others require clinical assessment.
Suicidal thoughts, self-harm, psychosis, severe addiction, domestic violence, recurrent panic attacks, severe dissociation, eating disorders, severe depression, and complex post-traumatic symptoms require specialized support.
Under such conditions, the facilitator’s responsibility is to preserve safety, make an appropriate referral, collaborate with a specialist, and observe professional boundaries.
Guided imagery may also create new mental images. Content that emerges during imagery or timeline work should be examined as the person’s subjective experience and should not, by itself, be considered conclusive evidence of a historical event.
Responsible intervention is based on informed consent, the right to stop, regulation of intensity, avoidance of suggestion, respect for culture and identity, transparency regarding the limits of the method, and referral in clinical situations.
A need virus is created through the connection of a natural need with a hidden rule and a compensatory strategy. Reconstructing this pattern must therefore address all three components.
First, the exact behavior is identified. The feeling and primary need are then revealed. The need is separated from the strategy, and the protective function of the behavior is acknowledged.
After relative physiological regulation is established, the hidden rule is examined through precise questions and a new belief is created. Several alternative strategies are then designed, and the new response is practiced in the future.
The final formula of this protocol is as follows:
Observing the behavior, recognizing the feeling, discovering the need, regulating the state, separating the need from the strategy, uncovering the hidden rule, reconstructing the belief, expanding choice, and practicing in the future.
The purpose of this process is not to create a human being without needs. The purpose is to develop a person who recognizes their needs, understands their language, and has healthier and freer choices for responding to them.
A natural need is the force of life.
A need virus is the restricted pathway of that force.
Awareness is the path through which the need returns to its natural course.
Every need virus has its own history, function, and context. One person may need emotion regulation, another may need belief reconstruction, and another may need stronger boundaries or actual resources. The technique is selected after the structure has been identified.
An appropriate beginning includes identifying the situation, recognizing the feeling, and discovering the need. The level of physiological arousal then determines whether state regulation or belief exploration should take priority.
Reframing means finding a broader and more useful perspective. Reality, harm, and responsibility are preserved in the process, while the meaning of the experience is expanded through new resources and choices.
The new belief must be realistic, believable, and practical. A gradual statement that the person’s body and experience can accept is more valuable than a very large statement that is far removed from reality.
The primary need usually refers to a human quality such as security, belonging, respect, autonomy, competence, calm, or meaning. When it is named accurately, the person often experiences a sense of clarity, contact, or relative calm.
One can examine what the behavior is trying to prevent from happening. The answer to this question often reveals the protective function.
Anchoring can facilitate access to a resourceful state. The treatment of anxiety depends on its severity, cause, duration, and the person’s circumstances, and may require evidence-based clinical interventions.
This technique changes the current meaning of the experience, the person’s relationship with their younger self, and the resources available to them. The historical event remains in the past.
A sharp increase in arousal, dissociation, sudden numbness, confusion, a sense of losing control, or a direct request from the person are signs that the process should pause. Reorientation to the environment, regulation, and safety assessment take priority.
The outcome is measured in daily behavior. Reduced compulsion, increased choice, clearer expression of needs, healthier boundaries, and the ability to maintain the new response in real situations are signs of change.
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